The PAIR Process²

Transformational program for couples

The PAIR Process™ ² is a transformational program for couples that combines personality psychology and attachment theory to uncover and rewire deep-seated relationship patterns. Most of the program is done individually, allowing each partner to gain deeper self-awareness and focus on their own growth before bringing those insights to the relationship.

⁠8 x 60-minute individual sessions per person via Zoom.
⁠1 x 60-minute joint coaching session via Zoom.
Led by Jessica Alderson, a top relationship expert featured in Forbes, Business Insider, Vogue, the New York Times, Men’s Health and Cosmopolitan.

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Rewire your relationship blueprint

The PAIR Process™ is a powerful framework designed to create lasting change in your relationships through personal growth. It connects the dots between who you are and how you love.

Coaching overview

Unlike traditional therapy or surface-level coaching, The PAIR Process™ combines:

- • Attachment theory: Attachment theory explains how we relate to others. The PAIR™ Process guides you in taking practical steps to move toward a secure attachment style so you can feel deeply connected in your relationship.
- • Personality types: Personality types reflect your innate way of being. The PAIR™ Process takes into account your natural tendencies and harnesses them for growth, rather than trying to change who you are at your core.
- • Subconscious reprogramming: Many relationship challenges stem from subconscious beliefs formed long before you met your partner. By reprogramming them, you can strengthen emotional intimacy and feel more aligned with each other.
- • Practical relationship tools: Transformation requires action as well as awareness. With actionable tools, you can implement new behaviors and communication skills to enhance your relationship.
- • Emotional recalibration: Recalibrating your emotional responses as a couple allows you to break free from reactive patterns and build a relationship grounded in security, trust, and mutual understanding.

Benefits

• Grow individually to strengthen your relationship: Turn challenges into opportunities for deeper connection, helping you both grow together instead of growing apart.
• Heal core wounds to defuse triggers: The PAIR™ Process helps you and your partner identify and heal deep-seated wounds—often formed in childhood or past experiences—that may be unknowingly affecting your relationship dynamics.
• Create harmony in your relationship: By fine-tuning the way you respond to each other, you can cultivate a more harmonious and fulfilling relationship dynamic.
• Deepen your emotional awareness: Through the process, you will both cultivate a deeper emotional awareness and develop healthier coping mechanisms for stress, conflict, and emotional triggers.
• See your relationship through a new lens: The PAIR™ Process helps you and your partner understand the deeper psychology behind your connection, allowing you to navigate love with more intention.
• Rewrite unhelpful patterns: Many couples find themselves stuck in the same arguments without understanding the root cause. The PAIR™ Process process digs deep and helps you break these cycles.

Testimonials

• “Everyone should be doing this!” Julie P., London
• “It goes much deeper than I expected.” Lily T., London

Build a relationship where you both feel truly seen

By understanding both you and your partner’s emotional wiring and unique traits, we create a tailored strategy designed specifically for your relationship. No more feeling stuck in the same patterns or guessing what will bring you closer. Together, we’ll dive deep into how your attachment styles and personalities interact, helping you build a strong foundation for lasting connection and compatibility.

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